Ice Chip #11

Okay, now we are experiencing the tug-of-war that happens when we want to move forward with our new behavior; however, it feels weird, strange, conflicting.

We have started to re-educate ourselves about removing the “(k)notty words”, however the uncomfortable part is thinking in a new way, and feeling like you are out of sorts.

This is called Cognitive-Emotive Dissonance.  Thinking new, feeling old, with a conflicting aspect—like having static.

When you are experiencing this part of the process of Re-Education, you want to rejoice, because you are nearing a major breakthrough in the process.  You will never be able to take a shortcut and miss out on this experience.  Cognitive-Emotive Dissonance will always be a part of your Re-Education process.

Embrace it.  Be grateful for this step.  It means you are getting closer to making a shift in your behavior. 

As you identify one of the “(k)notty words” to eradicate:  for example, the word:  don’t—be excited about stumbling with making the change.  You are used to using it, and coming up with an empowering alternative is the new part of the process. 

So let’s review.  Your is that yNew Intellectual Insight ou want to change your use of the word “don’t”.  You realize this word is a disempowering one, and you want to stop using it, and replace it with empowering alternatives.  You are realizing through your Converting Practice how to stop and ask “what is it that I would like to have happen?” as an example of coming up with an empowering alternative.

You have used “don’t” thousands of times in your life, and your realization is that you want to stop; however it still feels so natural to say it.

You actually want to have the initially “un-natural’ feeling of using the empowering alternative—realizing that it is a better way to articulate your message.

The “un-natural” part is the Cognitive-Emotive Dissonance and that is the part you want to embrace. 

Work with this over and over.  Stick with it.  We will continue the discussion next week….

I look forward to the next few Ice Chips because they will be coming to you from various stops on my European Tour of speaking and promoting Remember the Ice.  It will be fun to share aspects of my trip with you, my loyal readers.
 
Have a great week.

Best regards,

Bob

April 27, 2009 | Filed Under Ice Chips, RTI 

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