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Ice Chip #14.5
What an extraordinary journey….. hope you like the view…
I am writing to you from the wonderful quaint French village of Mirepoix. What a beautiful place to spend a week… The ambience is amazing. My dear friend Christophe and his wonderful family are hosting me, and truly are sharing the Givers Gain philosophy. This trip is infused with incredible experiences…it is like building the ultimate Dagwood Sandwich… (There is a blast from the past for you….)
Again, with your permission and indulgence, this Ice Chip will be more about sharing some photographs of my journey rather than a tip. However, the same comment from before holds steadfast: one thing I hope you grasp from the images is the sense of friendship and connection and community and fun and respectful elegance and rapport that is universal.
I went to BNI meetings, spoke at them as well as the Network Connect ’09 event in Brigwater. In between appearances, I was able to see historical castles and amazing architecture that helped to define the character of the English countryside. Nunney Castle in the west of England is a rare 14th Century French Castle. The vintage Rolls Royce from the 1920′s is owned by Paul’s neighbor and he really enjoyed telling me about it. A great memento from a time gone bye; he loves driving it.
And finally, I arrived in London and did get a glimpse of Big Ben. The majority of the time was spent off the regular routes that most tourists might take, as I was welcomed into the homes of my hosts in England; Liz Chukwu, Paul Clegg and Marieme Jamme. You are precious people with huge hearts and open arms….. Thank you so much…
Enjoy the gallery for this Ice Chip…
Photos from the English countryside, with my host and fellow BNI director and Ecademy BlackStar - Paul Clegg
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This was taken crossing the Waterloo Bridge, on my way to an Ecademy BlackStar Day meeting at the Strand Palace Hotel. The event was as magnificent as the grandeur of the sights. Thank you my fellow Ecademy BlackStars, and a special thank you to Penny and Thomas Power for your vision.
The next segment will come a bit quicker if you will indulge me once again. In 3 weeks I have been graced with 9 countries and so many memories, I am overflowing. I have been back to Belgium; through Germany again; and traversed Austria on the way to Ljubljana, Slovenja; and now I am in Mirepoix, France (enjoying a freshly prepared Panini….the aroma is delightful).
Here is a picture that represents the friendships that have been built and will continue to be nourished and nurtured. Even if we perceive a gap or rift in life……Remember, we can build a bridge…..
Thank you for sharing my journey and I am honored to be developing relationships with all of you. Enjoy your moment, and I look forward to sharing more with you…..
Have a great week.
Best regards,
Bob
Ice Chips #13 & #14
The community is beautiful and fun and special.
Greetings to you from Guilford, England. I am just southwest of London and two weeks into a spectacular six week adventure. The friendships and the moments of connecting have been plentiful. Special thanks to Cornelis & Ingrid, Erwin, Peter, Jan, Tina, Liz, Marieme, and Paul; you are all wonderful hosts and friends
With your indulgence, this Ice Chip will be more about sharing some photographs of my journey rather than a tip. However, one thing I hope you grasp from the images is the sense of friendship and connection and community and fun and respectful elegance and rapport that is universal.
Photos from Hoogland and Spakenburg, the Netherlands; Mechelen, Belgium; Autobahn in Germany; Tivoli Garden Tulips, Copenhagen, Denmark;
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I have had the pleasure of seeing The Netherlands, Belgium, Germany, Denmark and England…(Pictures of the English Countryside in the next installment).
I am living out the story that Penny and Thomas Power created with Ecademy…..
A Friend in Every City. I am heading back into London tonight to catch an early train to Brussels; then on to Ljubljana, Slovenia; Mirepoix, France; Stuttgart, Germany; Cordoba, Spain: and the world famous Douro Valley in Portugal, home to the finest vineyards of Victor Marques and his family—some of the best Port wine in the world. There are still more than three weeks to this networking odyssey, before returning home to Anchorage and my precious wife, Nancy…. (miss you so much sweetheart, xx)
My relationships with both BNI and Ecademy.com have welcomed me with open arms. There is no question: It is all about the relationship.
Have a great week.
Best regards,
Bob
Ice Chip #12
So now you have a name for those times when you knew you wanted to make a change in your behavior, and felt “strange” doing so.
Cognitive-Emotive Dissonance is becoming a term you are growing fonder of, because you realize more and more, that it is an integral part of the Re-Education Process. You are beginning to embrace it—and that is a good thing.
This process of coming up with empowering alternatives is something you are beginning to enjoy.
As you move through Cognitive-Emotive Dissonance, and have that first experience of: “Yes, I did it. I came up with a more empowering alternative,” you begin to experience New Emotional Insight. You begin to feel comfortable with your new behavior of eradicating “don’t” from your vocabulary.
You use a better phrase: for example; instead of saying to your son or daughter, “Don’t ever do that again,” you reframe your message to be something like, “I want you to stop pulling the dog’s tail.” “That is inappropriate.” “You can pet the dog, otherwise let him be.”
The example shows consideration for the dog, and begins to demonstrate a concept we call Respectful Elegance (doing the next right thing).
You feel better about sharing your message; your child understands the message and stops pulling the dog’s tail; the dog appreciates the new behavior; and it is a win-win-win situation.
The more you feel comfortable with eradicating the word “don’t”, the easier it is to do so. As you begin to master the skill, you become quite adept at it. Soon it becomes almost second nature.
When you reach this point, you have New Personality Trait Formation. You have really elevated your empowering word choice activity to a new level.
Remember that Repetition is the Mother of Skill. You will want to continue to embrace Cognitive-Emotive Dissonance and keep your focus on getting to New Emotional Insight.
So let’s review. Here are your five steps in the process of Re-Education.
New Intellectual Insight
Converting Practice
Cognitive-Emotive Dissonance
New Emotional Insight
New Personality Trait Formation
One of the best books on the subject of the Process of Re-Education is Help Yourself to Happiness by Dr. Maxie C. Maultsby, Jr.
Enjoy the process, and have a great week.
Best regards,
Bob
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