Ice Chip #32

The RTI community is about relationships.

 One of the pages on my website is the RTI Community Page.  It is about relationships.

“I love to promote people.  I love to connect people who have yet to meet, and bring them together in a harmonious way, to network and grow as individuals and business owners.  So, in the interest of promoting and recognizing my friends and supporters, I give you the RTI Community.” 

I hope you will take a moment to peruse this page and get to know some of the businesses and events that are mentioned:

  • BNI Alaska and Referral Institute
  • BuzzBizz Studios
  • Get Connected 2010
  • Ecademy.com
  • Olgoonik Technical Services
  • Carter Financial Group & Carter Tax Incorporated
  • Nspired Networking
  • Meet the Giants
  • QuoteActions and Productive Learning & Leisure
  • Creatively Minded Design

The creative people behind these ventures are worth getting to know.

On occasion there will be a follow up email highlighting upcoming events or pertinent information they are offering.  On their behalf, I appreciate your perusal.

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 In a 1998 writing from the Neuro-Linguistic Training Center of San Diego entitled:  “Words have power; they shape people and entire cultures”, I came across some interesting comments that I would like to share with you.

 “Language shapes the way cultures perceive and think about the world around them.” 

“In the realm of health, Norman Cousins researched over 2,000 patients studying the consequences of language on health. The moment the patient received a specific diagnostic label such as cancer, AIDS, MS, heart disease, etc., the patient’s immune system dangerously weakened.”

“During the Great Depression, over and over in the headlines the favorite word of the day to describe the country’s condition was “crippled.” This languaging was commonly accepted by the population of the United States for several years. Within a few years the country experienced its first outbreak of polio.” 

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Remember the Ice is about helping you attract the life you want through empowering word choice. 

Continue to focus on eradicating the “(k)notty words” and make sure to vote on the poll on our home page.  We would like to see the breakdown at 500 votes.  (Currently we are at:  272) 

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I hope you have a fantastic week and I thank you for being loyal friends of Remember the Ice. 

Best regards,

Bob

September 28, 2009 | Filed Under Ice Chips, RTI | Leave a Comment 

Ice Chip #31

Will you take the “(k)notty word” poll? 

On the right sidebar of this website is a simple yet revealing poll about how we use the “(k)notty words”.  It is a simple question: 

So which “(k)notty words” are used the most?  (You can select up to 3) 

Not  Don’t  Can’t  Won’t  Wouldn’t  Couldn’t  Shouldn’t  Try 

So far, there have been 145 of you who have voted.  I would be really curious to see how the poll would break down if we had 500 votes.  

So please click on the link above and take the poll.  I will keep you posted. 

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A very special seminar announcement will be forthcoming in a separate email later this week.  Watch for this and reserve your spot.

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Several of you commented on the 1,000,000th word Ice Chip last week and were amazed that the word “not” was ranked so high.  Remember that “not” represents the rest of the “(k)notty words” as well.  Let’s see what the fans of Remember the Ice think is the most popular.  

(So far it is:  “Can’t”) 

Have a phenomenal week of articulation,

Best regards,

Bob


September 22, 2009 | Filed Under Ice Chips, RTI | Leave a Comment 

Alaska Writers Guild – Guest Speaker

Bob will be the guest speaker for the Alaska Writers Guild and will focus on the importance of effective communication in the art of “sharing your story”.  The Guild is a formative group of 130 members — aspiring and talented authors who have magnificent stories to share.  Support and education are key elements of this three year old organization.  If you have a dream to put your story in writing–and one day become published, then the Alaska Writers Guild is for you.  Please contact David Brown, Vice President/Program Director at dbeci@myexcel.com


September 18, 2009 | Filed Under Events | Leave a Comment 

Ice Chip #30

The English Language WordClock:  1,001,366.

English passed the 1,000,000 threshold on June 10, 2009 at 10:22 am GMT

According to the Global Language Monitor there are over one million words to choose from in the English Language!!!  That gives you so many opportunities to use words to express and articulate your thoughts.  If you click the link you will have the opportunity to listen to an interview where Matt Frei reports on English’s unique linguistic evolution and then speaks to Global Language Monitor’s, Paul Payack who  helped find this millionth English word.

I was curious to see where the “(k)notty words” would show up in a study of the most common words in the English Language.  According to a study done in conjunction with the Oxford English Dictionary, they developed a list of the top 100 words or “lemmas”.  A lemma is where one word is the “headword” for several others that are in the same family of words.   For instance the entry “be” contains within it the occurrences of “is”, “was”, “be” and “are”.  In English, run, runs, ran and running are forms of the same lexeme, with run as the lemma.  A lexeme refers to the set of all the forms that have the same meaning.  

Note also that these top 100 lemmas listed below account for 50% of all the words in the Oxford English Corpus.  This information comes from the Wikipedia entry for most common words.

Rank Word
1 the
2 be
3 to
4 of
5 and
6 a
7 in
8 that
9 have
10 I
Rank Word
11 it
12 for
13 not
14 on
15 with
16 he
17 as
18 you
19 do
20 at
Rank Word
21 this
22 but
23 his
24 by
25 from
26 they
27 we
28 say
29 her
30 she
Rank Word
31 or
32 an
33 will
34 my
35 one
36 all
37 would
38 there
39 their
40 what
Rank Word
41 so
42 up
43 out
44 if
45 about
46 who
47 get
48 which
49 go
50 me
Rank Word
51 when
52 make
53 can
54 like
55 time
56 no
57 just
58 him
59 know
60 take
Rank Word
61 people
62 into
63 year
64 your
65 good
66 some
67 could
68 them
69 see
70 other
Rank Word
71 than
72 then
73 now
74 look
75 only
76 come
77 its
78 over
79 think
80 also
Rank Word
81 back
82 after
83 use
84 two
85 how
86 our
87 work
88 first
89 well
90 way
Rank Word
91 even
92 new
93 want
94 because
95 any
96 these
97 give
98 day
99 most
100 us



The main disempowering word:  “Not” is ahead of the Reframing Five:  Do, Can, Will, Would, Could. (Note that “But” is 3 from pushing “Do” further down the list. 

So what is the point of gathering this data and information? 

  • To give you the perspective that eradicating the “(k)notty words”  could have a major impact on creating change in the world. 
  • That empowering word choice could be  a significant part of your awareness for reframing your word choice.
  • To make the number of words you use, decrease…because you eradicated the “(k)notty words”.

Hope you enjoyed this bit of trivia, have a phenomenal week of articulation.  Remember to double check your emails before you hit send.  Use the reframing five.

Best regards,

Bob

P.S.  If you go to the Global Language Monitor link at the top of the Ice Chip, and watch the video that automatically loads (you will have to scroll down a bit to find the video), you will hear the 1,000,000th word as well as three others that were considered.  Be the first one to correctly identify all four of the words, and you will receive a signed copy of my book or Audio Book — your choice.  (I will take care of the postage).

September 15, 2009 | Filed Under Ice Chips, RTI | 3 Comments 

Ice Chip #29

QL = QQ

What in the world is this equation?   What could he possibly have in mind for this week’s ice chip?   What if this was a “formula” that could become an integral part of your beliefs?  How could this be?

All of the above are questions.  Simple, straight forward questions.

In applying the principles of Remember the Ice, you have read or heard me say, “Those that ask the best questions, get the best answers.”

While in Portugal this past June, I provided a Remember the Ice training for BNI Portugal National Directors, Helder & Sofia Falcao and their team of Assistant Directors.  We were involved in a great discussion about the power of great questions, and how paying attention to our articulation within the questions can be very helpful to getting great responses from those you are speaking with or writing to.

Helder said, “Bob, what you are saying is, that the Quality of your Life is based on great questions.  Ask better questions and get better answers.”  Indeed.

What came from that discussion was this formula:

The Quality of your Life is based on the Quality of your Questions.

For example:  “Why can’t you see how that affects me?”

Several things are at work here.  (How often does the questioning word “Why?” come across almost in a “whiney” tone?)  First of all, remove the (k)not and you have, Can you see how that affects me?  Asked if one can, chances are likely the response will be a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer.

Mmmm, perhaps another reframing would be better.  How about:  “What do you think is affecting our relationship at the moment?”  “How can we improve our communication to grow our relationship?”  These are better questions and offer both parties a chance to pause and reflect on creating a more enhanced relationship.  Hence the Quality of Life is improved based on the Quality of the Questions.

It is a simple idea that can have a significant impact on your communication.  Remember to focus on your reframing skills and kick those “(k)notty words” out of your vocabulary and out of your life.  Your Quality of Life will improve.

Have a phenomenal week,

Bob


P.S.  Thank you to all who looked at my new website and offered suggestions.  A couple of them have been implemented, such as the calendar (Where’s Bob), and an RTI Community page focusing on supporters and friends of RTI.  More to come in the next few weeks, so keep checking it out.

September 8, 2009 | Filed Under Ice Chips, RTI | 2 Comments 

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