Ice Chip #92
To be honest with you…..to tell you the truth….
Sometimes disempowering word choice comes in the form of commonly used words or phrases that are void of “(K)notty Words”.
We have talked about “should, try, but” and the phrase “no problem”.
Let’s take a look at a phrase that enters conversations when an emphatic point is about to be made. There is a discussion that is heating up a bit, and one party wants to really make a point.
Because most of us are used to using “(K)notty Words” there are comments in the conversation like:
“I can’t believe this happened.”
“Don’t think for a moment you shouldn’t feel uncomfortable about this.”
“You know what you should have done. I can’t believe you messed up.”
It escalates and one becomes quite serious; and says,
“Let me be honest with you…..to tell you the truth….”
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My question is this; “were you being dishonest before?” I would say no. Because of the cerebral chaos created by “(K)notty Words”.
The focus of this Ice Chip is to continue raising your awareness about articulating your message.
Hope this one kicked it up a notch or two….
Empowering Regards,
Bob
Ice Chip #91
Ready to relax…and this is what you see….
Imagine traveling for 11 days on a business trip, and you are experiencing the ebbs and flows of great meetings, some travel challenges, wonderful dinners and a few minutes of down time…..
The dinner meetings are finished. It was a productive day.
Several new concepts were discussed and you are both enthused, and tired. Knowing there is much work to be done, you just want to relax and appreciate the comfort of your accommodations, and get a great night’s rest.
You arrive at your hotel late, get checked in, unpack a bit, decide to lie down, turn on the TV and just decompress for a bit before turning in for the night.
Leaning over to turn off the light next to the bed, you encounter the following placard; “proudly displayed” by the establishment……
Yikes!!
I wonder if they are aware of the message they are sending out!!
Followers/students of the Remember the Ice concept will cringe when they read this because of the “(K)notty Words” in play.
After all, based on their wording it really says:
"If you are satisfied with the accommodations, remember, they could be simpler at Comfort Suites."
If you would like to help them send a more empowered message, a great referral for Remember the Ice would be the introduction to upper level management of Comfort Suites.
Enjoy your day, and remember to use empowering word choice to convey your message.
Empowering Regards,
Bob
Ice Chip #90
It’s not about the money……..
Really???
On August 18, 2010, Sports Talk Show host Jim Rome was interviewing former NFL offensive lineman Ross Tucker, a 7 year veteran. The topic of conversation was the pending return of one “gunslinger” quarterback: Brett Favre.
Once again, Brett was keeping his fans, the pundits, and the Minnesota Vikings up in the air about whether he would return to training camp. In the previous 89 years of the National Football League no one had mastered the art of keeping the “league on a string” as well as Favre.
During the interview with Russ, now an ESPN.com writer, Jim commented that anytime a player says, “It’s not about the money”, there was a pause….. And Russ and Jim both chuckled a bit; and said in unison---“of course it’s about the money”.
As a wordsmith with a passion for eradicating “(K)notty Words” and pointing out the folly of statements with “not” in them; I was grinning from ear to ear.
Here is the layout:
It’s not about the money.
It’s not about the money.
It’s not about the money.
It’s not about the money.
Considering the Vikings tossed in a couple million more dollars to sweeten the reunion, and Brett miraculously appeared; I guess it really was about the money after all.
When the word not is included in your thought process, there is a cerebral chaos taking place. You begin to question yourself and the situation you are dealing with.
If you remember to eradicate the “(K)nots” and speak, write and think without them—Re-Framing your thoughts with empowering word choice will be the order of the day.
I'll have Re-Framing with a side salad.
Have an empowering word choice week,
Bob
Ice Chip #89.5
A Continued note of thanks.
First of all, thank you to all of my readers for indulging me in this anniversary of the release of Remember the Ice. In the yesterday’s Ice Chip we thanked several people who have been instrumental in helping me share the message.
In this Ice Chip I would like to acknowledge a very special group of people who have been great supporters of RTI and have invested in the growth of the company.
Some of them have asked that I only use their first names, and I want to respect their wish. For those I can share a link to their website, please take a moment to visit them as well.
Whenever one wants to say thank you to a large number of people, invariably there are some left off the list. I apologize if your name has been missed. This is a large undertaking, and I am eternally grateful to all of you who have supported Remember the Ice as a purchaser of my book; an attendee at an event; a host of one of my trips; and a recipient of these Ice Chips.
A huge thank you to the following:
Bronwyn Ashbaker: my developmental editor, a very talented and gifted one at that.
The five horsemen: John, Tim, Kelly, Scott and Paul. You know who you are and I appreciate your generosity and support and belief and encouragement.
Yvonne Rowland and her staff at have been big promoters of the book, provided business advice and hosted a workshop.
Onnie Kendall at
Kelly Fisher, &
Thank you Dr. Ivan Misner, Norm Dominguez and the worldwide organization of .
The hosts of my European trip in 2009: Cornelis & Ingrid de Maijer – Hoogland, The Netherlands; Erwin de Laat - Mechlen, Belgium; Tina Jonasen – Copenhagen, Denmark; Liz Chukwu - London, England; Paul Clegg – Frome, Somerset, England; Marieme Jamme – Guilford, England; Freddy & Linda Daems – Mechlen, Belgium; Andreja Lahj - Ljubljana, Slovenija; Christophe & Beatrice Poizat – Mirepoix, France; Helder & Sofia Falcao – Trofa, Portugal; and Victor Marques – Douro Valley, Portugal.
Jeff Glaser and the team at KYES Channel 5, Anchorage, Alaska
Again, thank you to all who have supported me and helped to spread the message. I get emails daily from around the world and am humbled by the response.
Looking forward to the next opportunity to share the story,
Empowering Regards,
Bob
Ice Chip #89
Please let me introduce some friends……
Two years ago today (the second Tuesday in October) Remember the Ice and Other Paradigm Shifts was released. Self-published and printed in Anchorage, Alaska, the message began its world tour a week later in Houston, Texas.
This Ice Chip is about saying “Thank You” to several people, and sharing a slice of the special skills these people have to provide you. There will be several website links that would welcome your friendly click.
Please take some time to look into the talent these people have to offer. They are gifted givers. I know, because I have received gifts from all of them.
With heartfelt gratitude, I share them…..
Mark Taylor - Huntsville, Texas – BNI Executive Director
Gail Stolzenburg – Houston, Texas – BNI Assistant Director and Health Coach
Amy Kilpatrick – Augusta, Georgia and David Crumbaugh – Kyle, Texas – Co-Founders of Nspired Networking
Cornelis deMaijer - Hoogland, the Netherlands – Managing Partner of Flaka Cruising
Rick Itzkowich – Capistrano Beach, California -- Creator of Quote Actions
Ces and Jay Loftus – Sandbanks, Dorset, England – Creatively Minded Design
Michael “Buzz” Buzinski – Anchorage, Alaska – Buzz Bizz Studios
LuAnn Buechler - Byron Minnesota and Beth M. Anderson – Pepin, Wisconsin
Co-Founders of Get Connected Conferences
Brendan Cullen – Kilkenny, Ireland – Survey Guru (Research – Insight – Results)
Karl LeRay – Anchorage, Alaska - Providing the Right Solution for your Computer
Bill Potter – Auckland, New Zealand – Speakers New Zealand
LuAnn Buechler – Byron, Minnesota – Certified Passion Test Facilitator
Mohamed Dobrova – Un1que Designs – HD Video Production, Graphic Design
So there you have it, another opportunity to share a big thank you for a great group of colleagues and friends.
I sincerely hope you will visit a website or three, or four…..
Empowering Regards,
Bob